PAIN IN LOVING: GOOD OR BAD?

We had been stuck with the notion that loving is painful. There are some people who believe that when they start loving someone sooner or later they will experience pain. Some of these people who believe on such concept are those who have experienced the so-called heartbreaks in a relationship. Whenever they are at the stage of break up they think that they should not have love at the start.

Others believe that the more they love the more they will experience excessive pain. Some of these people who have such thinking are those who have gave much effort, time and value on loving their partners. Despite all their sacrifices, they have been betrayed or seen that it was only a one-sided love.

Let us asked then, is there a connection between love and pain? Basing from the statement above the answer is easily to be said yes. Pain is one of the future paths of love. As above-mentioned when a person loves, he or she will be happy or be hurt. This is found in the ostensible romantic love. Pain is part of loving. Love is not only about happiness. Love is not only about having smile in the face. Love is not only about the fast beating of the heart. Love is also about how much pain one will accept.

Pain sometimes creates greater circumstances with love. Let us take three types of love. First is the greatest love of all that is the love of God for man. The so-called greatest love of all involved pain. Jesus Christ suffered for all. He endured great pain and offered his own life upon the cross for all of us. Can this situation of the greatest love be called greatest without pain?

Second is the love of a man with a woman. When a man loves a woman, he tries his best to endure all pains for show his love for her. He sacrifices everything just for her to see his effort. This kind of love becomes clearer when he is asked to give her up for her to be happy. When a woman asked her man to let go since she wants to be happy, the man is asked to accept the pain that is the pain of lost. If the man loves her so much, he will let her go even it hurts for in his mind all he wants is for her to be happy.

Last is the love of a parent to a child. Parents will do anything for their child. They will work hard just to give everything for their child. They are even asked to have overtime which requires additional painful hours just to earn enough for the need of their family.

Pain is there NOT to hurt others. Pain is there to make us BECOME stronger and better. When there is no pain, what will our love be? Without pain, can such circumstances mentioned above be possible? Pain is not always about evil. Pain is also about goodness. Pain is like the polisher of the diamonded love in all of us.